Monday, December 1, 2008

Thank you

I would like to thank everyone for keeping my sister in their prayers. I was very amazed of how many friends and relatives showed up last night at the viewing. Some of yall know I was very emotional at the viewing and at the funeral today. I feel a quarter of my heart is lost and I do not feel complete. I know Kristy is either spreading her angel wings to fly, or riding her motorcycle. I know she is happy. I am hoping one day she will show up in my dreams to reassure me that she is in good hands and she is able to watch her children.

Sunday, November 30, 2008

Kristy's Obituary

From the Richmond Times Dispatch:

Kristy Kirby Williams

WILLIAMS, Kristy Kirby, 35, of Mechanicsville, departed this life Friday November 28, 2008. She was preceded in death by her grandparents, Harold and Audrey Meador and Pierman L. Sr. and Lou Ellen Kirby. She is survived by her husband, Chris Williams; four children, Kenneth M. DuVall, Kristen E. DuVall, William J. "Trey" DuVall, and Eric A. DuVall; her mother, Kathryn Lavoie and husband, Allen Lavoie; father, Kenneth Ray Kirby and wife, Christine A. Kirby; two sisters, Kathryn Ellen Bullock and husband, Bryan, and Karisa Kirby. Also six nieces and nephews, and numerous friends. A special thank you to her aunt, Molly Pinner, for all of her love and care. Kristy was a Hanover County School bus driver. The family will receive friends 5 to 8 p.m. Sunday, November 30, 2008 at the Mechanicsville Chapel, Bennett Funeral Home, 8014 Lee-Davis Road, and where a funeral service will be held 2 p.m. Monday. Interment will follow at Gethsemane Cemetery, Mechanicsville, Va. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the DuVall Children's Fund, c/o E.V.B. Bank, Old Church Office, 4241 Mechanicsville Turnpike, Mechanicsville, Va. 23111.

Saturday, November 29, 2008

Gone from our sight

It seems that I am at a loss for speak of our grief seems so very inadequate. Her Mom, KK, and her Dad, Ray are truly suffering....but the faces of her children are the images that you cannot remove from your mind. They are such brave children, and loved their Mom very much. How do you console a child when they loose their mother? Or a mother when they loose their child? Everything is inadequate!
WHY, WHY, WHY.....I know we are not supposed to ask this question, but it is so hard to accept the fact that healthy, thirty-five year old Kristy should be so stricken with such a dreadful disease. It was January 30, 2008, when we had just left Quartzsite heading for Phoenix, when KK emailed to tell us that Kristy had been diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. I knew almost nothing about such a diagnosis, but quickly learned that she had a very high risk case of this disease. Still, I thought, many people live long lives with leukemia, and they can cure most anything these days. Wrong, wrong wrong.

She suffered more than anyone should have to, enduring the most lethal doses of chemo, trying so hard to live. She really wanted to live. She truly gave it her all, and through it all, I never once heard her issue a complaint. Her mouth and throat were completely covered with raw lesions, but she complained not at all. She was always grateful, thanking the nurses, and anyone who did anything for her, constantly. More than anything, she did not want to burden anyone. She worried about her mom, and how much she was juggling her work, and helping with the kids and keeping so many balls bouncing. And she worried about her dad, as she thought he was worrying himself too much over her, and how often he would come to sit at the hospital with her. She did not want her illness to take a toll on them. And of course, most of all, she worried about her children. She loved them so her Dad said, when they walked into the room to see her, her face would light up like a one thousand watt bulb.....they just meant so much to her. She truly wanted to live for them. But God had other plans.

The days spent with Kristy during the last month were special ones. It was a priviledge to be with her and she inspired me with her tenacity and how hard she struggled to get to the other side of her Bone Marrow Transplant. When the doctors began to indicate that her cells had not engrafted, we were very concerned about the options. She had no white blood count, and thus, was completely vulnerable to any and all infections and viruses. The docs told us it would take 30 to 45 days to get another donor and stem cells. What a precarious situation. Sure enough, around day 30 she began to show signs of serious infections. It was apparent on Monday that she was getting sicker, but still, I thought she could come through it. By Wednesday, I felt that only a huge miracle would bring her through this, and I just knew that the miracle would come. Thursday afternoon she was suffering from delusions and her blood oxygen was down to about 82. She was drifting in and out of sleepiness and was really having congestion and mucousitis issues. They increased her oxygen intake and called Dr. McCarty. It seemed that her current meds might be causing the delusional issues, so the meds were removed.
We left her around 6 PM and a sitter was ordered for her.

At 11:40 pm KK called me to say that a gentleman from MCV had called to say that Kristy had been found "unresponsive: but with a pulse" and to come on over. I threw on my jogging suit and dashed from Montpelier to Ashland to pick up KK. We hurried on up to MCV hospital, arriving around 12:30, about the same time as Ray (her Dad). They took us into the conference room to await Dr. McCarty. He came in around 1 :15 am and told us they had found Kristy unresponsive around 11:20. They tried everything to resuscitate her (paddles, drugs, everything!) and her heart would not even try to restart. She died peacefully around 12:25. They remain unsure as to what brought about the failure...possibly the fungal or infections attacked her heart, and it could not withstand it. They asked to do an autopsy so we may learn exactly what transpired.

She had been at peace all week, seeming to know that the children were being cared for and that she had gotten some things in order that she had been wanting to get straight. She knew that she was loved and cared for by her family and children, and was more at peace with things than she had been in a long time. She had let go of some of her "worrying". She never gave up and never quit fighting, but the miracle never came. God had other plans.

Endless tears are shed, and it hurts so deeply to know that she is gone, and that she had to suffer so. But there is comfort in knowing she will suffer no more, and that she knew she was loved, and had the full support of her family. She is at peace now, and still loved. But our hearts hurt so deeply, for the young woman gone from our sight, and for the four children that she loved so.

Your kindness and condolences mean so much to us.... many thanks !

(Copied from Molly's blog 11/28/08)

Friday, November 28, 2008

Services for Kristy Kirby Williams

Visitation will be Sunday 5 pm to 8 pm at Bennett's Funeral Home on Lee-Davis Road in Mechanicsville, VA
Her funeral will be Monday, December 1st, at 2 pm at Bennett's, with burial at Gethsemane Christian Church

We will post soon with some updates.
Many thanks for your kindness and concerns.

NOT a bump in the road....

It seems that it wasn't just a bump in the road....we lost our sweet Kristy girl last night around midnight. She isn't suffering anymore.
Many thanks for all of your kindnesses....we are all so grateful.

(Written by Aunt Molly)

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

A little bump in the road....

The last couple of days brought a little bump in the road for Kristy. She developed some infections on Saturday and by Sunday she was pretty sick. Monday they did some testing (what day do they NOT do testing?! thankfully! :)) and found that she had a Lung infection (pneumonia), a blood infection and a UTI; they had already stepped up the antibiotics so they were on top of it.

Tonight they called and said they were moving her into ICU due to the infections and some blood found in her lungs. KK said she seemed to be doing better already, so it seems they are taking good care of her.

She is awaiting another transplant as soon as they can get the donor cells, so please keep praying for those cells to come, and for the infections to dissipate and her WBC to go UP. She is still a trooper and just keeps going everyday.

Thursday is Thanksgiving Day and we have so much to be grateful for. I am reminded of this every day.
We wish everyone a thankful and plentiful holiday.

(Written by Aunt Molly)

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Kristy's kids go to Catonsville

Kristy's two middle children, Kristen and Trey went with Aunt Molly to visit Tiffany and Scott in Catonsville (just North of Baltimore) this weekend. Scott was going to take Trey duck hunting in Delaware.
Scott and Trey got up at 3:40 AM to go they are dressed in camo "duck hunting attire"
They returned around 1 PM to get ready to visit the Aquarium in Baltimore.

We also did a few other fun things, like eating lunch at Friendly's and making Ice Cream sundae's.......
going to the National Aquarium in Baltimore, where Trey watched the colorful marine life...
Kristen, Trey and Tiffany observed the birds in the Tropical Rainforest.....
Kristen, Tiffany and Aunt Molly made some yummy Chocolate Chip cookies ....

and Kristen (along with everyone else) had lots of fun with Dixie the grand-beagle!

It was very cold, and there was even a little snow blowing but it was a fun weekend with Kristen and Trey. Trey and Scott cooked a wonderful breakfast of "eggs in a bag" and gingerbread pancakes..yum yum!! And Kristen created some lovely cards in Tiff's craft room in the basement. Trey even made a few cards too. They both made special cards for their Mom....she will be so delighted!
Soon there will be an outing with Kenneth and there's more fun coming up with the kids!!
The kids all send hugs and love to their Mom!!

(Written by Aunt Molly)